(English) I have a crush on my coworker but I found out from her that she likes her ex’s best friend and he likes her back and that she’s going through some problems with her ex about this. When I confessed my feelings to her, she said that she was really sorry and didn’t know what to say.

She also told me that she doesn’t know me long enough to say whether I’m her type or not and that I was a really cool and understanding person. Then she asked me if we could be good friends or not. When I told her that we’ll see, she goes ‘ You cant be friends with someone you like?’.

I told her that I’ll be around if she wants to talk or take things off her mind. Now the thing is, my friend told me if she only talks about herself for the next few weeks or doesn’t ask me to hang out then I should ditch her because it’ll be clear that she’s using me. I agree with him but I would also like your opinion on this as well. Is she trying to make use of me or is she trying to scrape out who I really am?