Sue York


About Sue York

Sue has been a volunteer in the Queer HIV+ community, and studied Sociology and Communications. She received her PhD in 2003 and has pondered gender issues for long.

I'm interested in the psyche and offering advice to those who feel stuck or face dilemmas in their coming out.


My peers tease that I am gay – but I don’t think I am!

I'm peter,15 years old....Since last month I'm afraid of turning gay.....but i don't want to as i have fell in love only with the opposite sex....and i don't think i will fall for men in the future...but at school I'm very friendly with girl and i always like to crack jokes among them. Some boys always say that I'm gay. When they say that I'm gay...i feel anxious and angry.....during my life time,i had watched only straight porn not gay porn.I don't know why they say that I'm....are they jealous that girls talk with me??or am I gay???.......since I'm very anxious and this is affecting my sex drive.I don't want to become gay but since they said that I'm gay ,i becoming very confused.....am i straight ???am i gay???or am i bisexual???


I don’t want to stay lovesick but I don’t know how to avoid it

I am desperately, passionately in love with my female best friend. Sadly, she's hetero and was scared away from any interest in women by a bully coming on to her in grade school. I don't know what to do, but can't continue this way (which is to say lovesick). What course of action do you recommend? I know I can try to control it but it's hard. Thanks in advance for your understanding.


How can I be in a relationship with a man if I don’t find him sexually attractive?

Hello For all of my life, I have always been attracted to males emotionally and romantically, and have never once thought about being with a woman in that way. However since the age of 11, I have found women very sexually attractive, and only found men sexually attractive in a minor way. So I guess you could say that I am sexually attracted to women, but emotionally attracted to men. This situation is confusing me a lot, and I really do not know what I am going to do in the future. How can I be in a relationship with any man if I do not find them sexually attractive? I know that I am not trying to kid myself about being emotionally attracted to men, I really do love them. At the moment a boy and I are having very strong romantic feelings towards each other, however when the subject of sex comes up it gets awkward. I have a very strong connection with this boy, and the thought of not being able to be with him because of this makes me really upset. Any help is appreciated greatly.



Finding bi/lesbian teens in in Vancouver

Hi there, so im 14 and i knew i was bi since probbly the beginning of last year. There is this one girl that i love very much, but she's moving to Ontario this summer, and all the other bi/lesbian girls i know are all in relationships. How do i find other LGBT teens in my area? I live on Vancouver Island in Canada


How can I get her to give me another chance?

My gf and I have hit a rough spot and no one can give me any advice or even tried I guess. Either way she's denying that she ever loved me since I yelled at her saying she didn't. Now after three months of that she finally broke it off completely saying that being with me was more of a chore and she couldn't think of me as a gf anymore. How can I fix this? Should I give her tons of space and try again? Even though she doesn't want to try anymore? I love her deeply and I already know what I need to fix in our relationship but I need to know how to get that chance. Please help!