I am married, but attracted to another person

Question asked by Michael (40 years old heterosexual man from Canada, Canada)

Question answered on 11 February 2008 by

Sorted in Love, Questions, Relationships

I have been married for over 7 years but been with my wife for 12 years total. About 2 months ago I met my massage therapist who is only 24 years old. She is currently involved with someone but nothing seems to matter because I am totally smitten by her. I have honestly never felt this way about anyone before, not even my wife who I love dearly. I don’t know what to do and I can’t stop thinking about her. She on the other hand probably has no clue about the way I feel, even though I drop small hints from time to time. What can I do to pursue this further?

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