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Am I bisexual or lesbian?

Question asked by Kelsey (14 years old questioning woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on March 10, 2009 by

Sorted in Misconceptions & Clichés, Prejudices, Questions

For the longest time I knew I was sexually attracted to both men and women, no questions asked. I have an incredible girlfriend, Chelsea. We have been dating for about seven months, and my feelings for her increase every day. I love her to death. Yesterday my friend asked me if I was bisexual or lesbian, and I didn’t know what to say. I have had one serious boyfriend before but I broke up with him after he cheated on me. I don’t really notice guys anymore. I mean, if my friend asks me if I think a certain guy is attractive, I might say yes, but there isn’t really any sexual attraction. Do you think I am a lesbian, or do you think that I am just more attracted to women than men because of the bad break up experience I had with my only boyfriend? I know there isn’t a certain yes or no answer but any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

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