I feel alienated. How can I meet others in the LGBT community in my country?

Question asked by An (19 years old homosexual woman from India, India)

Question answered on 8 April 2009 by

Sorted in Family, Questions, Loneliness

I chatted with an online gay friend for a few months and got quite emotionally attached to her till she said she was “tired” of me and wanted to leave. It took me some time to get over it. I have reached out to online LGBT communities within my country but haven’t thought about meeting anyone. I don’t really have any friends at college. I had to come out to a girl I had a huge crush on and she took it well but avoids talking about it. We do chat and that makes me feel better but, of late, her boyfriend has been sticking around her all the time and she doesn’t even notice me. And this guy keeps despising me. I keep feeling like a loser. I can’t even stop talking to her.
My parents are too conservative. They ask if something has been bothering me and I have no answer. They dont even think that I can have problems in life unrelated to my studies. Homosexuality is illegal here and I feel as if I’ve got no future. I feel depressed and alienated from everyone. How do I get on with life?

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