We are both married to men, but we are attracted to each other and have to keep it a secret.

Question asked by holly (40 years old heterosexual woman from India, India)

Question answered on 26 August 2009 by

Sorted in Cultures, Questions, Relationships

i am a 40 years old married woman with three children.I have a very close female friend of about the same age and she too has three children.We have been friends for six years and are extremely close.We have gone on vacation together but in all these years noting sexual has happened.We have shared bed,hugs and were always physical but neither of us felt sexually attracted to each other.Both of us are quite happily married and have never had or felt like having any gay encounters.Just recently we mutually became so sexually attracted to each other its driving us insane ,its just like falling in love for the first time :butterflies ,weak knees,arousal .looking into each other eyes,constantly thinking of each other ,wanting to hear each others voice, wanting to touch each other.So far we have not crossed any lines but we both know once given the chance to be alone we will.Please help there is too much at stake ,our husbands are close friends and we CAN NEVER DISCLOSE THIS TO ANYONE.Why now

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Kelley is currently in her last year at Concordia University, studying Psychology and Interdisciplinary Studies in Sexuality. For two years, she lived and worked in the university residence halls as a Resident Assistant where she played an active part in aiding the residents as they made the change from high school to university life. In high school, Kelley was a member of her school’s gay-straight alliance. She held the president role in her last year where she led meetings and organized events to foster the growth of a tolerant campus.

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