How do I tell him I have a crush on him now that I know he’s gay?

Question asked by Diego (19 years old homosexual man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on 10 January 2010 by

Sorted in Friendship, Colleges & Universities, Questions

So I’m gay and I met this guy I knew is gay here in college. During our free time before classes started we hung out practically every day, and to this day we hang out as much as we can but with a couple of other friends. But ever since then I’ve had the biggest crush on him. He recently came out to us (even though he didn’t know I already knew), but I don’t know if he knows that I am. There has been many occasions were I’ve planed to tell him about my crush. Now I feel that it is the time but certain emotions keep me from telling him this. I am thinking the next time I get to hang out with him alone to confess … but I need someones help.

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Dee holds a baccalaureate in Fine Arts in Cinema (Specialization in Film Animation). She's also an event producer/promoter in the Queer community, mainly working with independent musicians and visual artists. Dee was a volunteer in the "Tell the experts" team for 2 years before being given the opportunity to become Outreach Director. Heading the Anglophone Team since early 2009 has been a great experience!

I like being involved at AlterHeros because it helps keep me in touch with the Queer community. I also love to help others and I am interested in psychology and coming out issues.

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