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My husband is trans – I feel like he was dishonest from the start

Question asked by Marie (51 years old heterosexual woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on April 16, 2010 by

Sorted in Questions, Transition, Transsexuality

My husband of 29 years announced today that he wanted to start taking hormones. That he would grow small breasts and his voice would change a bit. That he would have to have his penis removed—as it would shrivel up because of the hormones. First of all—is that true? I am at a loss. I only knew that he liked on ocasion to wear women’s shoes—when we got married. It has escalated from there. He has has several affairs—he says only mentally—but I am not certain. I have tried to give him the benefit of the doubt—but I am not comfortable with his recent announcement. I do not wish to live as a lesbian—first of all because I have wishes and desires that will not be met. Also if my job gets wind of this—they will look for anything possible to get rid of me. There has really been no discussion of this—he refuses. He says that it is totally his decision and he does not care what I have to say or think about it. I feel like he was not honest with me from the start…

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