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My strong feelings continue – should I tell her so?

Question asked by christy (16 years old woman from Peru, Peru)

Question answered on October 2, 2010 by

Sorted in Love, Bisexuality, Questions

I am 16 years old, I am a bisexual girl, and I am in love with a close friend of mine, who is also bisexual. I have felt this way about her one year and a half. When I met her I didn’t know or accept that I was bi, and I didn’t know that she was bi either. We had an innocent friendship at the beginning. Last summer I realized that I wanted to kiss her more than anything. One night on a sleepover she unexpectedly asked me to kiss her, and it was the most beautiful and erotic moment of my life, up until that moment. I guess I had my first real and meaningful kiss with her. She started dating this guy and we would constantly fight for her. I still don’t know if she knows that I love her or if she thinks that I’m just having fun. We flirt a lot, we’ve kissed many times, and it definitely had a sexual connotation to it, as opposed to just two friends joking around. Since it’s been almost two years and my feelings are as strong as ever, I’m confused as to whether I should tell her or not.

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