Can I be a transwoman and a tomboy ?

Question asked by tsundere.girl (22, Belgium)

Question answered on 15 June 2011 by

Sorted in Being transsexual and homosexual, Questions, Am I trans?

Hi I am biologically male but have gender issues and confusion. All my life I felt something was “off” and felt very alienated and most of the time hated myself. I managed to come by though, I presented as a guy as much as I could, despite constantly second guessing my actions (“I wonder if I’m considered male enough if I do this?”). Despite liking girls I’ve always been a bit confused about my sexuality. Even though I jokingly identified myself as a lesbian female for a long part of my life, I realize now how true these feelings are.
I’ve never shown blatant transsexuality, I’ve never put make-up on, I’ve never dressed except in private (shamefully)… I used my penis normally. So I’m really confused if I can still be transsexual but not like makeup or feminine clothes like all the classic cases… it wouldn’t be “me”…
In the correct life for me, I’d have been a tomboy femme lesbian. I really HATE being male now, and I’m getting more and more depressed, almost suicidal :(

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Kelley is currently in her last year at Concordia University, studying Psychology and Interdisciplinary Studies in Sexuality. For two years, she lived and worked in the university residence halls as a Resident Assistant where she played an active part in aiding the residents as they made the change from high school to university life. In high school, Kelley was a member of her school’s gay-straight alliance. She held the president role in her last year where she led meetings and organized events to foster the growth of a tolerant campus.

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