I would like to make my coming out, but I am 63 years old and frightened…

Question asked by direne (63 bisexual woman, United States of America)

Question answered on 22 June 2011 by

Sorted in Uncomfortable in my skin, Questions

At 63 I am still confused and miserable. I love women but have never had a full-on relationship with one. I want to know if I can be a part of a bi- or lesbian community that values fidelity? All the bi\’s that I\’ve met were interested in threesomes and I am definitely not. Can I come out at 63 and not lose all my friends? I am too old to start over and yet… I want the love of a woman. What should I do? Do I try to get accepted in the glbt community in my town? I used to be before I married my last husband. I don\’t want to be isolated or shut off from any part of the world. I should have gone through this in adolescence. Why I didn\’t I don\’t know. I had a lesbian friend but she didn\’t turn me on, she was butch. I like feminine women. I am in an agony of indecision. I feel like at my age I must decide and stick to it. Thank you for your time.

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