Coming out

I came out to my parents as lesbian but they don’t believe me and my friends rejected me. What do I do now?

Question asked by Jamie (14 questioning woman, Canada)

Question answered on June 22, 2011 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Friendship, Family, Coming out, Uncomfortable in my skin, Questions, Resources, Coming out

Hi Jamie, Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. From your post, it sounds like you’re struggling with your coming out to your parents and close friends as lesbian and that you’re trying to figure out what to do now and how to get help. First of all, a great big ... Read more.

My Christian friend is against homosexuality. I think I’m in love with her, should I tell her?

Question asked by Sandra Olson (18 years old questioning woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on July 27, 2009 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in Coming out, Questions, Religions

Hello Sandra, thanks for dropping us a line! I'm sorry you are having to face this dilemma with your good friend. It seems like there are 2 main struggles going on. One is the struggle to be heard, to be understood, and known for your true feelings. The second struggle is ... Read more.

Should I come out as bi or gay?

Question asked by Eric (14 years old questioning man from Canada, Canada)

Question answered on June 23, 2009 by Rimma Orenman

Sorted in Bisexuality, Coming out, Questions

Hi Eric, Thank you for your question. If I understand correctly, you are defining your sexual orientation and would like to share this aspect of your identity with those around you. However, you are not sure what term to use to describe yourself, because you are not quite sure what your sexual ... Read more.

Clear Skies Would be a Plus

Story published on April 18, 2009 by Mandy

Sorted in Family, Coming out, Stories, Lesbian living

How to tell parents… when you know you just might be with someone for life… and they just might be visiting you this summer (and you really, really hate lying to them now…)

Can I trust my feelings regarding my sexual preferences?

Question asked by Em (18 years old homosexual woman from Australia, Australia)

Question answered on March 5, 2009 by Evelyn Kuang

Sorted in En questionnement, Coming out, Questions

Hello Em, thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. It sounds like what you're going through is really difficult. Having feelings of frustration, confusion and ambivalence is natural, and you are not alone in how you feel. People disagree about whether sexuality is a choice. You will find many ... Read more.

I am 18 and my 16 yo girlfriend came out to her family; her mother told me to stay away from her

Question asked by Mary (18 years old homosexual woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on November 25, 2008 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in Coming out, Questions, Relationships

Hi Mary, and thanks for your question. I can understand your frustration, and though I don't think Erika's mom is right, I can understand her feelings too. Of course, you are not to blame for 'turning her daughter into a lesbian': Erika has a mind of her own, and I'm sure she ... Read more.

Should I come out as a bisexual?

Question asked by Caroline (17 years old woman from France, Metropolitan, France, Metropolitan)

Question answered on November 9, 2008 by Lorin Young

Sorted in Bisexuality, Coming out, Questions

Hi Caroline, Thank you for your question. It is very difficult to discuss who you are when you are not sure that others will accept that person. At the same time, hiding who you really are can be painful. It is also difficult if you have people who are important to ... Read more.

I came out to friends and now some are casting me out

Question asked by Tony (14 years old homosexual man)

Question answered on October 16, 2008 by annabelle dupras

Sorted in Gay & Lesbian, Coming out, Questions

Hi Tony! Thank you for your question. As you must know, coming out is not an easy thing do to, and so I think it's great that you found strength in yourself to speak openly to some of your friends about your homosexuality. From what I understand, you are going through a tough ... Read more.

I am attracted to the same sex, but live in a conservative religious environment

Question asked by dr

Question answered on July 4, 2008 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Coming out, Questions, Religions

Hello dr, First of all, thank you so much for sharing your situation with us at AlterHéros. We're so pleased that you have entrusted us to help with your very personal and difficult circumstances. From what you have described to us, there are a number of things that need to be ... Read more.

Gay teens coming out: it’s talked about more, but still difficult

Article published on June 30, 2008 in The Canadian Press by Tamsyn Burgmann

Sorted in Dossiers, Coming out

It was a black, stretch-velvet dress that outed Shawn Fowler at the age of 14. Hours earlier, the sexy number had been tucked secretly away in his bedroom – along with a wig, lipstick and mascara. Yet there was his sister, sashaying through his grandparents’ house, only she was donning the frock. "That was the [...]