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I feel more comfortable around women than men. Am I a lesbian?

Question asked by Sandy (25 questioning, Canada)

Question answered on July 23, 2011 by Kelley R

Sorted in Definitions, En questionnement, Gay & Lesbian, Questions, Am I gay, lesbian, bi or trans?

Hi Sandy, Thank you for writing to Alterheros with your questions. You bring up a few different ideas and concerns about your sexuality and whether or not it has been influenced by witnessing other people’s abusive relationships. You say that you feel threatened by men and in turn, prefer to be around ... Read more.

How do I fit in as pansexual at the age of 13?

Question asked by (13 years old woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on July 7, 2010 by Suzanne

Sorted in Definitions, Questions, Coming out

Hi, Pansexuality could be considered a broader category. Generally those who identify as pansexual are not attracted to an individual's gender. It seems to be more personality oriented, or character attributes-based. It is sometimes considered a variation on bi-sexuality, since the two have so much in common. Differentiating the two could be ... Read more.

Am I a lesbian if i fantasize about women?

Question asked by Emma (21 years old heterosexual woman from Australia, Australia)

Question answered on September 22, 2009 by Evelyn Kuang

Sorted in Causes of homosexuality / sexual orientation, Definitions, Questions

Hi Emma, Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros! There could be a lot of different reasons as to why you are fantasizing about other women while with your male partner. I think its important to realize first off, that your sexual orientation does not necessarily come with a ... Read more.

My friends say I’m not really bisexual!

Question asked by Sarah Ross (17 years old woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on May 25, 2009 by laurar

Sorted in Bisexuality, Definitions, Questions

Dear Sarah, There are certainly a lot of people who want to tell bisexuals that they are "just confused," and that they will eventually make up their minds as to which gender they actually prefer. I think that the people who tell you this are just scared of the possibility that they, themselves, may not ... Read more.

Project Error

Article published on May 1, 2009 by Jayden

Sorted in Definitions, Being transsexual and homosexual, Uncomfortable in my skin

Ive read stories on here more than a few times, sometimes to feel not so alone, others to discover the many different ways of living and to hear peoples unique experiences with gender and sexuality. Im not sure what I am anymore, Ive gone through so many different identities Im not even sure people will believe me if I give them a new one. But the path to finding yourself has so many twists and turns and has never been a straight line. Sometimes we stop and look at the possibilities and rather than pursuing our way down the path we push ourselves into something easier. Sometimes its not all that easy but its better than waiting for an answer, waiting to be told that were something more or something different.

Does the way I masturbate make me bi?

Question asked by Wayne (35 years old questioning man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on April 15, 2009 by Philip Borden

Sorted in Bisexuality, Definitions, Questions

Hi Wayne, Thanks for your question. I'll try to help as best I can. You're curious as to whether or not masturbating while wearing women's lingerie and sucking on a dildo makes you bisexual. The short answer to your question is no, simply masturbating while fantasizing about men or simulating gay ... Read more.

Am I asexual?

Question asked by anon (20 years old)

Question answered on April 7, 2009 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Definitions, En questionnement, Questions

Hello anon, Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros with your question. From the sounds of it, you seem to be a pretty happy person when it comes to your family, friendships and not having any romantic relationships. The thing that appears to be bothering you right now ... Read more.

Why do I fantasize about my father?

Question asked by Reema (31 years old questioning woman from Australia, Australia)

Question answered on March 13, 2009 by Philip Borden

Sorted in Definitions, Family, Questions

Hi Reema, Thanks for asking your question to AlterHéros. I will try to answer your questions as best I can with the information you provided. Afterwards, if you'd like to follow up with more info, feel free to do so. For the last year or so you have been thinking of your ... Read more.

Alternate versions of

Question asked by michele (53 years old heterosexual woman)

Question answered on March 11, 2009 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in Definitions, Homo-potpourri, Questions

Hi Michele, Thanks for writing to us with your question! This is a very interesting question, indeed. As much as we say we hate labels, we always seem to want or need to label things, including gender, sexual preferences, crowd 'clicks', etc. The fact is, with all the nicknames out there, I have ... Read more.

Human sexual natures simply aren’t simple

Article published on February 7, 2009 in CBC by Stephen Strauss

Sorted in Definitions, Dossiers

I have spent much of my life translating research findings from science-speak into a language that ordinary people can understand, but I don’t think I ever truly understood the perils of mistranslation before attempting to unravel the widespread confusion wrought by B.C. teenagers and their sexual activities. A paper published late last year by researchers [...]