En questionnement

Can I trust my feelings regarding my sexual preferences?

Question asked by Em (18 years old homosexual woman from Australia, Australia)

Question answered on March 5, 2009 by Evelyn Kuang

Sorted in En questionnement, Coming out, Questions

Hello Em, thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. It sounds like what you're going through is really difficult. Having feelings of frustration, confusion and ambivalence is natural, and you are not alone in how you feel. People disagree about whether sexuality is a choice. You will find many ... Read more.

How can I remain straight?

Question asked by rocky (23 years old questioning man from India, India)

Question answered on March 1, 2009 by Rimma Orenman

Sorted in En questionnement, Misconceptions & Clichés, Questions

Hello Rocky, Thank you for your question. It certainly seems that you are currently living through a difficult period. From what you say I understand that you are mostly sexually attracted to men. However, you are not able to share the truth about your sexual orientation with your family or friends for fear ... Read more.

If I masturbate to gay male porn how can i be emotionally attracted to women?

Question asked by jorge (17 years old questioning man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on February 28, 2009 by Rimma Orenman

Sorted in En questionnement, Misconceptions & Clichés, Questions

Hello Jorge, Thank you for your question. If I understand correctly, you are currently in the process of exploring different forms of sexuality and trying to better understand your sexual orientation. First, I'd like to reassure you that these explorations are completely normal in adolescence and young adulthood, and even later on ... Read more.

I’m a lesbian, so why am I attracted to one man in particular?

Question asked by jevy (29 years old homosexual woman from Italy, Italy)

Question answered on February 28, 2009 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Bisexuality, En questionnement, Questions

Hi jevy, Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. From your post, it sounds as though you're experiencing some confusion when it comes to your lesbian identity and it's all stemming from some fantasies you've had about a particular man. After going through a coming out process and happily living ... Read more.

I am confused about my sexuality and my possible gender…

Question asked by Jake Johnson (20 years old questioning man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on February 24, 2009 by JP Duc

Sorted in En questionnement, Questions

Hello Jake, and thank you for your question Being confused or unsure about sexuality is perfectly normal, because our societies that unfortunately, mostly represent the majority and emits representative messages and advice attached to this. Media, including film and television, religions and ingrained societal beliefs; have really pushed these values- gender roles: ... Read more.

I am a lesbian in love with a guy… is that possible ?

Question asked by krista (19 years old questioning woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on February 17, 2009 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in En questionnement, Questions

Hi Krista, and thanks for your question. Love is without borders! It transcends genders if we allow it to. If you feel such tremendous love for this guy, there is nothing wrong with that. There are all types of love between all types of people. I know some girls who identify ... Read more.

I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure of my real sexual orientatio

Question asked by Em (18 years old questioning woman from Australia, Australia)

Question answered on January 21, 2009 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in En questionnement, Gay & Lesbian, Questions

Hello, and thanks for your question! Sometimes sexual attraction can be secondary to emotional attraction. If you feel good around this guy and he makes you smile, you don't necessarily have to be physically attracted to him in order to give it a go. Some couples find the 'attraction' only after they've ... Read more.

What is happening to me ? I love my boyfriend, but I have thoughts that I might be attracted by females

Question asked by laura (19 years old questioning woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on January 20, 2009 by annabelle dupras

Sorted in En questionnement, Gay & Lesbian, Questions

Hi Laura, thank you for your question. If I can reassure you from the start, I think that the questionning you are going through right now is normal. Sexuality, and sexual orientation in particular, are not always simple issues and often bring about many questions that aren't easy to deal with. What I ... Read more.

My husband has had same sex intercourse and cross-dresses- should I stay with him?

Question asked by Christina (24 years old heterosexual woman from Paraguay, Paraguay)

Question answered on December 31, 2008 by Dee Gamme

Sorted in En questionnement, Questions, Relationships

Hello Christina, Thank you for your question. I'm sure this is a very confusing time for you in your marriage. Even if in your culture it is considered 'wrong' to perform the acts that your husband says he likes to take part in, if you really love him, I don't think it's ... Read more.

I never hated my gender, but I’ve never really liked who I was, I felt I should be different

Question asked by Jordan (16 years old from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on October 24, 2008 by annabelle dupras

Sorted in En questionnement, Questions, Transsexuality

Hi Jordan! Thank you for your question. The impression I get from what you are saying is that you are questioning yourself about your gender, maybe not knowing anymore which gender you identify yourself with. It seems that although you are female and do not hate your gender, you also feel ... Read more.