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I met this guy, but I don’t know if I should tell him my feelings
Hi John!
Thanks for taking the time to write to Alterheros about your dilemma. It's always hard to let someone know of your feelings when you're not sure how they will be received.
As you know, your choices pretty much are either to tell him or not. If you tell him, best ... Read more.
I am attracted to men, but not penises, am I gay ?
Hi Aaron,
Thanks for writing to AlterHeros. You write that you are attracted to men in jeans, but not naked men, and you want to know if you are gay.
Only you knows your own sexual orientation. By "gay" most of the people mean an attraction to the same sex. ... Read more.
I feel I am stuck in uncertainty, am I transgender ?
Hi Moose,
Thanks for writing to AlterHeros. It seems that you are very concern by your questionning, and you would like to know if you are transgender.
For many people that have made the journey to this transition, it is, a lot of times, a long path. Many ... Read more.
My boyfriend won’t stop masturbating with online men!
Hi Marie,
Thanks for writing to us at AlterHéros. It sounds like the fact that your long term boyfriend is masturbating online with other men is causing you a great deal of concern. Notably, you did not mention two things in your post: 1) whether or not this ... Read more.
I don’t want to keep being everyone’s poster-boy
Hi Steven, Thanks for coming to us with your question and I'm sorry it's taken us so long to get back to you. I'll try to advise you to the best of my ability.
There are some aspects to your question that seem to be somewhat contradictory. You say that when ... Read more.
Did I condition myself to like guys? And help for Christian queers.
Hi Kristy!
Thanks for writing in to us at Alterheros!
You mention questioning your sexuality because you saw women as objects of personal sexual desire, but attempted to change this by forcing yourself to think of males, and later choosing to date guys.
You later mention you tried forcing yourself to think about ... Read more.
My husband is trans – I feel like he was dishonest from the start
Hi Marie,
Thank you for sharing your question with us here at Alterheros.
Recently, your husband of 29 years came out to you about his transgendered identity. He advised you of some of the physical characteristics that would be changing, including plans to remove his male genitalia. In the past, you mention ... Read more.
My friend still leads me on after she said she doesn’t like me that way
Hey Stephanie,
We're so glad that you decided to write us back with an update. First of all, it's great to hear that you took the time to talk about your feelings with your friend; some people are too scared to even do that so you deserve kudos for ... Read more.
I snooped in my boyfriend’s phone – is he cheating?
Hi Jessica,
Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. Finding information about your partner in that way is always such a hard situation. I definitely support that you want to confront him about it, because cheating is not okay and you deserve better than that. A few things:
1. ... Read more.
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