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I don’t want to keep being everyone’s poster-boy
Hi Steven, Thanks for coming to us with your question and I'm sorry it's taken us so long to get back to you. I'll try to advise you to the best of my ability.
There are some aspects to your question that seem to be somewhat contradictory. You say that when ... Read more.
Did I condition myself to like guys? And help for Christian queers.
Hi Kristy!
Thanks for writing in to us at Alterheros!
You mention questioning your sexuality because you saw women as objects of personal sexual desire, but attempted to change this by forcing yourself to think of males, and later choosing to date guys.
You later mention you tried forcing yourself to think about ... Read more.
My husband is trans – I feel like he was dishonest from the start
Hi Marie,
Thank you for sharing your question with us here at Alterheros.
Recently, your husband of 29 years came out to you about his transgendered identity. He advised you of some of the physical characteristics that would be changing, including plans to remove his male genitalia. In the past, you mention ... Read more.
My friend still leads me on after she said she doesn’t like me that way
Hey Stephanie,
We're so glad that you decided to write us back with an update. First of all, it's great to hear that you took the time to talk about your feelings with your friend; some people are too scared to even do that so you deserve kudos for ... Read more.
I snooped in my boyfriend’s phone – is he cheating?
Hi Jessica,
Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. Finding information about your partner in that way is always such a hard situation. I definitely support that you want to confront him about it, because cheating is not okay and you deserve better than that. A few things:
1. ... Read more.
Repulsed by men since I was raped, I don’t know if I’m a lesbian
Hi Linzi,
I think what's especially important when someone does something bad to us is not to generalize. Each person is unique in his or her own way and this is why stereotyping should be avoided. I'm not trying to take away from the gravity of the incident that occurred, because ... Read more.
I’m jealous of
Hi Jason,
Thanks for writing into Alterheros! You seem to be having some confusing feelings about whether or not you are transgendered. You mention that you have always aroused yourself by fantasizing about being a woman in a sexual encounter with a man. Even though you are attracted to women, ... Read more.
I’m a 16-year old Iraqi boy – I want to be free to say
Hi Bayar, thanks for coming to Alterheros with your question. I hope I
can provide you with some help.
First of all I want to congratulate you for finding the strength and
courage to come online and search for help and support. I'm sure it is
not easy for you to find any kind ... Read more.
I want to cut off my breasts!
Hi Laura!
Thanks for writing in to us at Alterhéros.
It sounds like you're having a tough time with your body right now. You write about not liking your breasts and about some issues you've run into with an non-traditional appearance. I'd like to assure you that you are certainly not alone ... Read more.
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