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Will watching transexual porn compromise my hetero lifestyle?
Hi Matt,
Thanks for writing in with your question.
It can be confusing when you realize you are interested in something you may have otherwise thought of as abnormal, but let me say that being turned on my transsexual porn is not abnormal at all. People are turned on ... Read more.
I would like to make my coming out, but I am 63 years old and frightened…
Hi Direne,
By the sounds of your question is seems that you are feeling quite overwhelmed and that you might perhaps be ready to explore some parts of yourself that have confused you for some time now. I want to start by highlighting how much strength it takes ... Read more.
I came out to my parents as lesbian but they don’t believe me and my friends rejected me. What do I do now?
Hi Jamie,
Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. From your post, it sounds like you’re struggling with your coming out to your parents and close friends as lesbian and that you’re trying to figure out what to do now and how to get help.
First of all, a great big ... Read more.
Can I be a transwoman and a tomboy ?
Hi Tsundere.girl,
Thank you for contacting AlterHeros with your question. From what you’re telling me, I understand that you have some conflicting feelings with regard to gender issues and your sexuality. You also mention that in an ideal situation, you would be a male-to-female transsexual, but wouldn’t adhere to the socially ... Read more.
How to make him discover that I am gay ?
Hi Cool Bean,
Thanks for the question. It can be tricky meeting people when you first come out, but it's definitely not impossible. There are no clear answers or ways to talk to someone, but there are some things you can keep in mind when talking with someone you're potentially interested ... Read more.
Is it unusual to start being attracted by same-sex in my mid-30s ?
Hi Joe,
Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. I am happy for you that you are at the next step of your self-discovery. You should not feel alone in your discovery, discovering and or re-discovering ones sexuality is a dynamic ongoing process. This is because a person's sexuality is fluid ... Read more.
I realized I feel like a man…
Hi Raph,
It takes a lot of strength and courage to share your feelings with your friends and parents. It's really great and impressive that you were brave enough to do this. It sounds like your friends are a great support to you! It is important to surround yourself with people ... Read more.
I am aroused by pictures of female genitals, is it normal ?
Hi Maria,
From what I understand you are confused by the fact that you can be sexually aroused by both male and female bodies (this has been happening to varying degrees over your lifetime), but you do not want to have sex with women. Now you are wondering if this means ... Read more.
I’m afraid my boyfriend will act out his fantasies.
Hi Anne,
Thank you for coming to AlterHeros with your question.
From your statement above, you explain that you have recently found out about your boyfriend's sexual fantasies and desires to watch transsexual (Male to Female) pornography. You are frightened that your boyfriend will act on his sexual fantasies. Additionally, you are questioning ... Read more.
Am I still a lesbian if I’m attracted to my transgender friend?
Hi Sara,
You say you have been with the same girlfriend for a while now. How long is that to you? Some people might think that 6 months is a long time, others might say 2 years.
You want to know if you are still considered a lesbian if you ... Read more.
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