Coming out

I came out to my parents as lesbian but they don’t believe me and my friends rejected me. What do I do now?

Question asked by Jamie (14 questioning woman, Canada)

Question answered on June 22, 2011 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Friendship, Family, Coming out, Uncomfortable in my skin, Questions, Resources, Coming out

Hi Jamie, Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. From your post, it sounds like you’re struggling with your coming out to your parents and close friends as lesbian and that you’re trying to figure out what to do now and how to get help. First of all, a great big ... Read more.

How do I approach my sister about liking her best friend’s sister?

Question asked by jenna (17 years old woman from Canada, Canada)

Question answered on December 21, 2010 by Evelyn Kuang

Sorted in Family, Questions, Coming out

Hi Jenna, Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. It sounds like you're in a frustrating situation. Hopefully this can help you sort out what you want to do. I hear you say that you have a close relationship with your sister, but she doesn't know you are ... Read more.

I came out and was well received, but I feel so awkward now

Question asked by marco (22 years old homosexual man from Canada, Canada)

Question answered on October 26, 2010 by Hillary Greer

Sorted in Family, Questions, Coming out

Hi Marco, thanks for coming to Alterheros with your question! First of all, congratulations on coming out! Although it might seem difficult right now, I hope you remain happy with your decision. I'm wondering what exactly it is that you are feeling guilty about. You mention that your parents are ... Read more.

Is it worth opening up to him? I might lose his friendship.

Question asked by Rodrigo (17 years old questioning man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on October 2, 2010 by Brad Newman

Sorted in Acceptance, Questions, Coming out

Hi Rodrigo, Coming out can be very intimidating. Although it may seem overwhelming - try to think of it not so much as you coming out of some sort of hiding, but rather coming into your own. You have obviously been thinking about this for a while, and you're ready ... Read more.

I didn’t come out to my dad – now I keep thinking of him in a sexual way

Question asked by Polly (21 years old homosexual woman from Great Britain, Great Britain)

Question answered on September 26, 2010 by Suzanne

Sorted in Family, Questions, Coming out

Hi Polly, It sounds like you are in a frustrating position and I can understand why you feel the way you do. I don't think you are mad at all. There are many possible explanations for what you are going through. Having a long term girlfriend that ... Read more.

Guiding a gay youth while rejecting his sexual advances to both myself and my partner

Question asked by Randy

Question answered on September 15, 2010 by JP Duc

Sorted in Why act? Why talk about it?, Questions, Outing

Hi Randy, Guiding a lost or new gay teen is something that is neither simple, nor easy. At least when straight people like teachers, principals, councilors, a school nurse, peer support persons, give information and guide a young homosexual things are clearer for them, youth are then empowered then they ... Read more.

How do I fit in as pansexual at the age of 13?

Question asked by (13 years old woman from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on July 7, 2010 by Suzanne

Sorted in Definitions, Questions, Coming out

Hi, Pansexuality could be considered a broader category. Generally those who identify as pansexual are not attracted to an individual's gender. It seems to be more personality oriented, or character attributes-based. It is sometimes considered a variation on bi-sexuality, since the two have so much in common. Differentiating the two could be ... Read more.

I want to tell them that I am bisexual, but I don’t want my team to hate me…

Question asked by Matt (19 years old man from United States of America, United States of America)

Question answered on May 24, 2010 by Kathleen Kabis

Sorted in Questions, Coming out

Hi Matt, Thank you for writing to Alterhéros! You are unsure if you should tell the rest of your football team if you are bisexual because the team president advised you not to. Unfortunatly you didn't mention how the few people of your team to whom you came out reacted to ... Read more.

My friend still leads me on after she said she doesn’t like me that way

Question asked by Stephanie (16 years old questioning woman from Canada, Canada)

Question answered on March 31, 2010 by Kay Wo

Sorted in Friendship, Questions, Outing

Hey Stephanie, We're so glad that you decided to write us back with an update. First of all, it's great to hear that you took the time to talk about your feelings with your friend; some people are too scared to even do that so you deserve kudos for ... Read more.