Sounds like you have a lot going on. I can understand why you are confused, frustrated, and questioning.
I don't believe anyone wants to be perceived as vulnerable, whether they are male or female. I think that most people are happier to be seen as strong, and ... Read more.
Thank you very much for writing in to us at Alterheros. You write that becoming aroused after mistakenly seeing gay porn has caused you to question your sexuality, despite the fact that you are attracted to and have been in love with girls. Your question is not uncommon among ... Read more.
Coming out can be very intimidating. Although it may seem overwhelming - try to think of it not so much as you coming out of some sort of hiding, but rather coming into your own. You have obviously been thinking about this for a while, and you're ready ... Read more.
Thank you very much for reaching out to Alterheros.
I understand that you are interested in having a 3 way relationship and wondering if this is crazy or normal. You also mentioned that you would not have sex with the guy.
First of all, I don't know if there is such ... Read more.
Thank you for writing to Alterheros.
I am glad that you are aware of the fact that you are young and thus have plenty of time to decide. First of all, give yourself a pat on the back for that because many people your age are not aware of ... Read more.
Thanks for writing to us at AlterHéros. It sounds like the fact that your long term boyfriend is masturbating online with other men is causing you a great deal of concern. Notably, you did not mention two things in your post: 1) whether or not this ... Read more.
Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. It sounds like you're having a really rough time right now regarding your sexual orientation. From all the things you've said in your post, it really does NOT sound like you're gay. Though it is true that ... Read more.
The fact that you were upset knowing she was upset may indicate many things, the big ones being
a) That you care for her, in a way that goes deeper than lust.
b) That you still view her as a friend, and are naturally upset,
c) That you are a compassionate human ... Read more.
I'm so glad you came to AlterHeros for help! First of all, do not do anything drastic. No man is worth you ruining your life over. There will be other men, but you are individual and unique.
Now, to the man: He may be taking a while to contact you because ... Read more.
Being gay is definitely not bad or immoral, though many people in countries around the world may believe this to be true. Nigeria is not known for its gay-friendliness; in fact, both gay and lesbian same-sex encounters are illegal within the country, and offenses are punishable either by up ... Read more.
Parles-en aux experts is a project of the nonprofit organization AlterHeros, which aims the heathly development of all individuals regarding with their sexual orientation, gender identity and sexuality. We are based in Montreal, Canada.