Thank you very much for writing in to us at Alterheros. You write that becoming aroused after mistakenly seeing gay porn has caused you to question your sexuality, despite the fact that you are attracted to and have been in love with girls. Your question is not uncommon among ... Read more.
Thanks for writing to AlterHeros. You write that you are attracted to men in jeans, but not naked men, and you want to know if you are gay.
Only you knows your own sexual orientation. By "gay" most of the people mean an attraction to the same sex. ... Read more.
Thanks for sending in your question Andrew,
At 15, you are in a period of adolescence (a period of important body changes, including sexual maturation) see the beginning of this answer http://www.alterheros.com/english/ask_experts/ask.cfm?QID=1870
It is perfectly ok to be attracted to women and men, attraction is a complicated process, our brain and our ... Read more.
Thank you for coming to us with your question. As I'm sure you realize, the decision to live as another gender is a very big decision. And yes, you should probably consult a therapist before considering hormone therapy or any sort of reassignment surgery.
You asked if it's possible that ... Read more.
The first thing for you to understand is that what label you give yourself doesn't matter. You can be bi, you can be a lesbian, you can be both, or you can just be queer-along with a myriad of other options. It doesn't have to be the defining ... Read more.
Hi Kelsey, thanks for sending your question to Alterheros!
From what I understand, you are trying to find the right label for your sexual orientation, and also trying to decide if you are finding yourself more attracted to women because that is what's natural for you, or because you've had a ... Read more.
Thank you for your question.
I have some questions for you as well – why are these gender identity issues bothering you? Do you feel that you need to have a label for who/what you are? It seems that you understand pretty well what it is that you feel comfortable ... Read more.
Hi again Chris !
Well, maybe you are straight with homosexual tendencies ! If its the label you want to put on yourself, go for it !
The important thing in that is to respect yourself and your values, and respect other people which are around you. So, be happy !
François, ... Read more.
Thanks for your question! You seem to be grappling with a few different issues (sexuality, gender identity, and labelling), and I'll try to respond to each of them.
As I'm sure you know, there is a difference between one's sexuality (who you are attracted to) and one's gender identity (the ... Read more.
You sound a bit confused right now but that's normal because figuring out one's sexuality is not always clear-cut and obvious. You do not need to decide on a “label” until you are ready (if ever you feel the need to label yourself). Sex does not need ... Read more.
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