Jorge, a friend of mine ,is heterosexual, even though others often tease him and think he is gay. He is very popular among female friends, as he is charming, affectionate, caring and humorous. What I like about him the most is that he pays attention to details of people's ... Read more.
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Reflecting on certain issues about your gender and sexual orientation could help clarify this situation a bit. Here are a few questions I think you might want to think about to understand yourself better.
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Coming out can be very intimidating. Although it may seem overwhelming - try to think of it not so much as you coming out of some sort of hiding, but rather coming into your own. You have obviously been thinking about this for a while, and you're ready ... Read more.
Once I had a huge crush on a heterosexual friend and I still think about her years after. I understand what you feel the inability to continue this way. It is torturous when you keep such a strong emotion to yourself or when your love feelings are not ... Read more.
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Now on to your question! From your post, your problem seems to be the following: even though you've always identified as ... Read more.
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If I understand well, you're unsure about your sexual orientation, and unhappy about it. Also, you feel depressed and lonely at times, even though you don't really know why. If you don't mind I'll separate the two issues.
Since you've already tried sex with both ... Read more.
You're confused about your sexual orientation and your romantic future. It's ok to not have everything figured out. It takes some people longer than others to understand themselves.
You say that you were not sexually attracted to this girl you met on the internet and that you felt nothing when she ... Read more.
Thanks for writing to AlterHeros. You write that you are attracted to men in jeans, but not naked men, and you want to know if you are gay.
Only you knows your own sexual orientation. By "gay" most of the people mean an attraction to the same sex. ... Read more.
Thanks for submitting your question to Alterheros. It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It's not uncommon to develop romantic feelings for a close friend and it is indeed an even more difficult situation when you discover they do not feel the same as you ... Read more.
Thanks for writing in to us at AlterHéros. It sounds like you're having a really rough time right now regarding your sexual orientation. From all the things you've said in your post, it really does NOT sound like you're gay. Though it is true that ... Read more.
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