advice


I’m scared to be bullied if I announce I’m transgender

I've had this ever-growing feeling for the past 3 or 4 years that I was born as the wrong gender. However, I do worry a lot about telling people that I want to be a girl. I know my parents love me and most people would not care what my sexuality was. But my bully-worn and wary mind keeps telling me "what if?". I just want to know whether I should bite the bullet and tell them or keep it to myself. I've been pushed to the point of tears because I'm so confused whether I should be honest or not. My question is simple: In this situation, should I tell the truth?


I don’t want to make the same mistake twice !

I have a crush on one of my female friends. She knows I'm gay, I do not what her orientation is. Every time someone else asks her who she likes, or if she's ever liked anyone, she always avoids the question. But like I said, I really like her. I'm wondering whether to tell her or not. Last year, i was in something of the same position, and the other girl freaked when I told her. I DO NOT want to make the same mistake twice. Last year hurt like anything. The other problem is that we're both in the same tight group of friends, and I have a feeling telling her, if the feelings were not mutual, would screw up the whole group. (It would cause a lot of incredibly awkward situations at best.) Do I tell her? If anything, is there a way to inquire her own sexual orientation without being terribly blunt? Friggin' middle school drama.