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I’m a straight female but don’t like my femininity

I've always been confused about my gender... I'm a straight female, but I don't identify with being female at all. I never have, even when I was quite young. But the strange part is, I have a very strong attraction to masculine men, the same men I envy in every way due to their gender. I have a very feminine appearance, the large curves, the small frame, and I hate it. I hate how small and womanly I look. I don't relate or connect to other women on any level. They make me feel uncomfortable, just very out of place. The majority of my friends are male. I often feel like a gay man trapped in a woman's body and it bothers me to no end.


How come I get aroused by shirtless men? I’m sure I like women.

I have seen your site and feel very confused. I have always fantasized about girls since I started thinking about Sex and have only had crushes on girls, but sometimes when I see a someone with his shirt off or when I am in the locker room I get aroused. Gay Porn doesn't turn me on and recently I have tried thinking about gay sex too but that does not turn me on either. I feel very confused because I have never wanted to go out with or have sex with another man, but recently I have started obsessing about my sexuality. I am not homophobic but how can I be heterosexual and get aroused by men with their shirts off?


It feels like a hand around my throat – I think I love him

Hello. Am I Bi-Sexual or Bi-Curious? I'm 14 years old And Im Really Confused. All My Life I've Been Straight Untill My14th Birthday. I Never had Any Feelings For The Same Sex, But When I Turned 14, I Suddenly Felt An Overwhelming Attraction To My Best friend. He's Admitted To Me That He Is Bi, But I Can't, I Don't Know If I Am Or If I'm not. We have Been Best Friends For Over two years Now, And during All That TimeI Never Even Had A Spark With him, But Now It'sAll Changed. We've Kissed On A Few Occasions Just for Me To See If I Felt Anything. But When I did, I Was So... Happy. It's Like, When I'm With him, It's Like Fireworks Are Exploding Around Us. It Feels So Magical. But when he's Not There It's Feels Like There's A Hand Around My Throat, Grasping As Tight As Can Go, Restricting me to Breathe. I Think I Love Him. I Almost Slept With Him. But It's Not Just With Him, I Also Think Other Boys ( And Still Girls) Are Atrractive. I Just Want Your Help, Does th...



Gay/Transsexual porn turns me on but I’m sure I’m straight.

Hey thanks for the great service! I have a question that's been bugging me. I've always identified as straight, throughout my life I've only had sexual and emotional attractions/relationships with girls, never once been attracted by men, but in the past year or so I've found myself turned on by the actual act of gay/transsexual sex. I'm not sure whether it's just the raw 'sexiness' of it or whether I'm trying to repress something, but I just hope this isn't the beginning of me turning bi or gay, as I love my hetrosexuality too much to give it up. I feel like I have no control over what turns me on but I just don't like it and wish I didn't feel it. The idea of romance or any kind of intimate contact with a man in real life would do nothing for me, but seeing it in porn and wondering about the sensations is a real turn on for me. Any ideas about this? Wish I could just understand why these feelings happen, it's making me really upset. Thank you!


Is she just being nice to me? I’m sure she’s straight but she’s driving me crazy!

Hello, i just wanted to, well explain my problem becaume i have no one really to tell - scared of hatred of rejection. Im straight, and always have been, until this girl came into year 10, and ever since i'v been confused! Shes popular, pretty and basically a bad rebel. Shes obviously straight but its just the things she sometimes do that makes me wonder, she makes me so nervous as well. Every science she walks dead close to me when theres loads of space around her, i see her sometimes watching me in that lesson too. Past english she put her hands around my waist to get past, but she wouldnt, definitely wouldnt do that to other people. i've hardly ever spoken to her yet she drives me insane with this confusion! i try to convince myself she may like me a little, but when i see myself and her friends, i think, why would she like me out of all her pretty friends? maybe shes just being nice to me? Thank you, chloe.


How can I be in a relationship with a man if I don’t find him sexually attractive?

Hello For all of my life, I have always been attracted to males emotionally and romantically, and have never once thought about being with a woman in that way. However since the age of 11, I have found women very sexually attractive, and only found men sexually attractive in a minor way. So I guess you could say that I am sexually attracted to women, but emotionally attracted to men. This situation is confusing me a lot, and I really do not know what I am going to do in the future. How can I be in a relationship with any man if I do not find them sexually attractive? I know that I am not trying to kid myself about being emotionally attracted to men, I really do love them. At the moment a boy and I are having very strong romantic feelings towards each other, however when the subject of sex comes up it gets awkward. I have a very strong connection with this boy, and the thought of not being able to be with him because of this makes me really upset. Any help is appreciated greatly.



Am I attracted to my female friends or is my wetness from something else?

Hi. Well first, every since i was about 10 people have said they think i am gay. I guess when people say something about you, you begin to believe it. I have several gay friends because i don't separate myself from them like others do. But i am beginning to feel attracted to a couple of my friends mainly my friend from school and my best friend since we were babies. But I'm not attracted to them sexually, its there personality that attracts me. I mean they both do have large female( boobs and butt) parts but that's not a reason. (My friend from school is bisexual and my best friend is straight). Does this mean I'm gay. I spent the day with my best friend just hanging out and i come home and fine myself 'wet', also what should I do? Please help me I'm stuck between a crossroad, and did i mention i am in a relationship with my boyfriend.



I don’t have many chances to talk to boys, but maybe I prefer girls?

I'm a 16 year old girl. I've never had a boyfriend before. I don't have any brothers and I go to an all girls school. I don't socialise with people outside of my immediate family and school friends, so I don't have any friends that are boys (as opposed to boyfriends). Recently I was talking to a boy I met on a volunteer programme. I thought he was nice, but I wasn't sexually attracted to him. This got me worried about why I wasn't attracted to him. I began to worry that I might be gay, even though it had never ever occurred to me before. Once I started thinking about it, I couldn't get the thought out of my head. Suddenly, I began to find women sexually attractive, even though I never had before. I have always found guys good-looking, but I have always known when girls were pretty as well. All I've ever wanted, old-fashioned as it sounds, is to get married to a man and have children. I don't understand this. I don't have a crush on any girl at all, and never have. Please help.