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I’ve come out to two of my friends. It has been really hard for me and I don’t know what to do about everyone else…

Hi, I've just recently accepted the fact that I'm gay and I've even come out to two of my friends... That was really tough for me and now I don't know what to do about everyone else. One of my parents wouldn't care, and neither would my sister, but I'm really worried about my step-dad and mom. He always makes snide jokes about gay people and my mom always laughs right along with him. He has even made comments like "I don't know what I'd do if you or your sister turned out to be gay..." among many other things... I really don't know what to do, I don't want to disappoint my parents and I don't want for them to feel like I'm a different person because of it I'm not currently seeing anyone and I have never had a girl friend, I know this is something they will try to use against me if I tell them. Should I wait until I meet someone to tell them? I just know in my heart this is who I am and there is no point in denying it anymore .... I just need some help.... Thanks, Stressed


I came out to my parents as lesbian but they don’t believe me and my friends rejected me. What do I do now?

I am a 14 year old girl and I always fantasize about being with other women and have dated other woman. I've told my parents but they don't seem to believe I'm lesbian. I don't know what to do and I've told some of my close friends but instead of being caring they rejected me. I don't know what to do or how to get help.



If I could pass, would my family support me if I decided I was transgender?

I've been crossdressing since 5th grade, in my moms lingerie and other clothes. It started out just out of curiosity, but I couldn't stop. I love it because I do feel feminine which doesn't scare me. I have to admit there is some arousal too. I've also fantasized about being a girl and having sexual relations with another male, but I"m still attracted to girls mostly. I recently became friends with a mtf transgender girl and I find myself speaking more in a feminine tone with her like we were best friends. Depression has really hit me lately. There are times where because of how i feel when i dress as a girl, its no longer just about love of crossdressing, but in truth I like looking in the mirror and it feels right. Am i just a transvestitecrossdresser or should I consider that I might be a woman inside. The last year I've been getting these strong feelings towards being a woman and it only bothers me because I don't know if I could pass and if anybody in my family would support me.


Is it worth opening up to him? I might lose his friendship.

Hi, I'm seventeen and have not been sure about my sexual orientation since when I was about 15. I like girls but there is also a guy I know that i really like even though I really wish a didn't. Unfortunately we are really close friends so I really don't want to risk losing him as a friend, but I really like him. We tend to tease and play around with each other, but he has a girlfriend. I know he probably isn't attracted to me but I feel stuck in the middle because I feel like I'll be miserable for the rest of my life. I know that I'm still young but If this is how its going to be I don't want to have face this. I really don't know if its worth opening up to him and telling him what I feel about him because I really value our friendship but I feel the need to tell somebody. I've liked girls most of my life but now I'm not sure.


I am terrified to reveal my true sexual identity

For about three years now I've been attempting to come to terms with my issues concerning gender and sexuality. I am fifteen years old, and have fully accepted myself as being born in the body of a woman but having the mind and spirit of a man. I've felt nothing but confusion and pain ever since I came to terms with this. I can't stand my body, and I want things to be corrected as soon as possible. The thing is, I am absolutely terrified of telling my friends and family about my feelings and desire to change the person they know. Neither group is very understanding when it comes to sexuality and things like that. I've dealt with severe depression, and still do, mostly because of my gender identity problems. So I have a therapist, and he understands...but has no words to help this fear. I'm scared that they'll disown me, or that I'll be the complete screw up of the family and they'll all be ashamed of me. How do I get over this fear and just come out with it?!



How do I fit in as pansexual at the age of 13?

I identify as a pansexual, but I feel like I don't fit in with the LGBT Community. Is pansexuality a homosexual subgroup or something else? I am 13 and feel that if I come out people will just ask "how do I know" since I'm young and not fully matured. I don't want to feel like I have to lie to my friends and friends. I feel lost and confused and feel like I no one to turn to.


I hate that I am attracted to men…

When i was first entering puberty i was heterosexual and had fasination with the female body. Then around the age of 10 that fascination switched to men and it has been that way ever since, reason unknown. I grew up hating that I was attracted to men and a part of me still hates the 'gay' me. Recently I began accepting the fact that I could be gay, and both friends and family has been very supportive of my desicion. However even now I don't know what i am. I am physically attracted to males but emotionally attracted to females. I find this rift grows when I add in the fact that I want kids, I want to offer a life what my mom AND dad gave me. I want to continue my own flesh and blood with a wife I love but I'm scared that I will be unfaithful and go back to guys, because I'm more attracked to them physically. I tried boyfriends but they just turn to sexual flings and most guys a meet are TOO gay for my liking, however there have been possible relationships. I feel so torn!


Confused about my feelings for both women and men

I'm very confused and could use help. I'm a college student and for most of my life I considered myself straight. None of my relationships with guys worked, they all felt forced. Touching them (even just holding hands) was a chore and kissing them made me Ill. I still wanted to date them, of course, but I couldn't seem to be attracted or close to them. Eventually, I chalked it up to me just being unable to commit. Then I got to college and started looking around. I still want to date guys, but I find myself looking at girls with much more interest. I could see myself with them physically, which I never had with guys, but despite that I still don't know if I'm bi, straight, lesbian, or bi-curious and, since I live in a fairly homophobic area of the country, I have no idea how to figure it out and no one to talk to. Any ideas would be much appreciated.