gender


Depressed – is it my gender identity?

I've dealt with depression throughout my life, and think gender identity may be a probable cause. I have no memories of discomfort solely because of my genetic body and gender identity, but I've recently found myself facing severe depression while being faced with the concept. What makes me doubt GID, however is; a) a "transvestism fetish", & b) I got these strong feelings after being introduced to the reality of transsexualism, which makes me think it could be a learned thing. I don't feel like I am necessarily female inside, but I do have some wish and desire to have been born so. And despite the depression, consciously I would identify as mainly androgynous (mentally). I'm at my wits end, and in my last bout of depression my mind crept toward thoughts of suicide. Could this be an identity issue or could it just be the idea itself that causes discomfort? I'm considering professional help, but I fear this is just sporadic, temporary, and doubt the validity of the possible issue.





How do I fit in as pansexual at the age of 13?

I identify as a pansexual, but I feel like I don't fit in with the LGBT Community. Is pansexuality a homosexual subgroup or something else? I am 13 and feel that if I come out people will just ask "how do I know" since I'm young and not fully matured. I don't want to feel like I have to lie to my friends and friends. I feel lost and confused and feel like I no one to turn to.


I’m scared to be bullied if I announce I’m transgender

I've had this ever-growing feeling for the past 3 or 4 years that I was born as the wrong gender. However, I do worry a lot about telling people that I want to be a girl. I know my parents love me and most people would not care what my sexuality was. But my bully-worn and wary mind keeps telling me "what if?". I just want to know whether I should bite the bullet and tell them or keep it to myself. I've been pushed to the point of tears because I'm so confused whether I should be honest or not. My question is simple: In this situation, should I tell the truth?


What if someone wanted to do away with gender ?

While you have answered a question about castration, you did so in a leading manner that implies desire towards femininity. What if an individual did not want to become female, but wished to do away with gender and sexual identity altogether? Would the barriers of understanding by "successful" people make this impossible? I'd rather not have to jury rig a pair of hedge clippers, but I don't think I have any choice. I am a Montrealler, so if you can provide an individual reference, that would help greatly.



I don’t want to keep being everyone’s poster-boy

So, I have been really confused about what I want in terms of my gender identity. When I look in the mirror I don't want to see "handsome" or anything male about myself. I really enjoy being a guy and I know this because I couldn't imagine life without my penis. I'm guessing you can call me genderqueer or androgynous, but how do I know if this is what I really want? I've already taken steps to look more female. I do my eyebrows, shave my body, wear makeup, and now I'm letting my hair grow. I feel really confident but my ultimate goal would be to pass as an actual girl from the face. My mom and dad are not giving me their approval anytime soon - I've done so much to be everyone's "poster child", and now I just want to break free from the boy everyone thinks I am. Any advice?


My husband is trans – I feel like he was dishonest from the start

My husband of 29 years announced today that he wanted to start taking hormones. That he would grow small breasts and his voice would change a bit. That he would have to have his penis removed---as it would shrivel up because of the hormones. First of all---is that true? I am at a loss. I only knew that he liked on ocasion to wear women's shoes---when we got married. It has escalated from there. He has has several affairs---he says only mentally---but I am not certain. I have tried to give him the benefit of the doubt---but I am not comfortable with his recent announcement. I do not wish to live as a lesbian---first of all because I have wishes and desires that will not be met. Also if my job gets wind of this---they will look for anything possible to get rid of me. There has really been no discussion of this---he refuses. He says that it is totally his decision and he does not care what I have to say or think about it. I feel like he was not honest with me from the start...


I’m jealous of

Could I be transgendered? Since I can remember I have fantasized (masturbated) about being a woman having sex with a man. I am extremely attracted to women but find it hard to be physical with them. Men do not turn me on, only when Im picturing myself as a woman. And even then I focus more on my visual aspects, smooth legs, breasts, nice curves and such, this is what really turns me on. Also if the man is dominating. I know that everything I have described is only sexual and that there is a lot more to being transgendered than simply having sexual fantasies. Sometimes I feel comfortable in my own skin and other times I get jealous when I see girls having girl talk and very much so want to be apart of their world. I can't quite say if I feel like a woman inside, at this point I really can't tell. Do my sexual fantasies mean that I may be transgendered?