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Is it worth opening up to him? I might lose his friendship.

Hi, I'm seventeen and have not been sure about my sexual orientation since when I was about 15. I like girls but there is also a guy I know that i really like even though I really wish a didn't. Unfortunately we are really close friends so I really don't want to risk losing him as a friend, but I really like him. We tend to tease and play around with each other, but he has a girlfriend. I know he probably isn't attracted to me but I feel stuck in the middle because I feel like I'll be miserable for the rest of my life. I know that I'm still young but If this is how its going to be I don't want to have face this. I really don't know if its worth opening up to him and telling him what I feel about him because I really value our friendship but I feel the need to tell somebody. I've liked girls most of my life but now I'm not sure.


I’m sure I’m attracted to men, but i’m repulsed by the sight of a penis!

Hi, I'm really confused. I'm a male, 19 years of age and I have always been attracted to men. I am a virgin and I'm not sexually active. The thought/sight of a man's penis does not arouse me in fact, I feel repulsed by it. What does this mean? Am I actually straight? Who should I talk to about all this? Surely by 19 I should have figured this out so that I can get on with my life! I'm sick of all this uncertainty.


Guiding a gay youth while rejecting his sexual advances to both myself and my partner

I am trying to help guide a young hispanic man (he's) 17 in the right direction to meet and get to know other guys in his age bracket. He's not shy, quite to the contray, but he's exhibiting inappropriate behavior. He showed up at our door begging us for sex. This situation is just wrong for many, many reassons. He seems overblown with hormones, but I'd like to know how he could get free counseling and maybe meet other young men (in a group situation) that he could get to know. He lives near is in the San Fernando valley and tells me that he feels completely cut off. His friends are all straight and as unfortunate as it is, are very homophobic. He's afraid they might try to kill him. We live in the San Fernando valley near North Hollywood. I'd like to give him some advice before he does something drastic or gets us in trouble. I really could use some information for him. (Counseling centers-gay hispanic yourth group meetings). Your immediate help would be appreciated. Thanks



I don’t want to waste my teen years on the ‘wrong’ sex.

Hi, I am an unsure 15 year old. I have liked girls all throughout middle school, but suddenly I found myself becoming sexually attracted towards guys. It's something I wouldn't want, but would know if would have to face if it is real. I like girls, I find myself attracted emotionally and midly sexually, but to guys I have no emotional connection, and an almost overpowering sexual attraction. I am not sure if I am just fearful of the weird hormones during puberty, going through a weird phase with weird fantasies, or if I'm doomed to having only partially "whole" relations with either sex. I know I have a long time to decide, and I've been thinking about it for a long time, but the thoughts are conflicting and I'm still not sure. And I don't want to waste any part of my teenage years on a sex which I actually can't have a fulfilling relationship with.


I’m having violent sexual dreams

I am twenty three and am a virgin but almost every night I have dreams of sex. I was diagnosed with Narcolepsy at the age of 13 and to get rid of the nightmares I started to watch porn. Now I can ignore the dreams of sex and redirect them. But a lot of times I have dreams of two people who were close friends one is of a guy who was like a brother to me tries to rape me and a friend she tries to force me to have sex also (sometimes with the girl it does happen but shes always fisting me). I don't like these dreams and try to ignore them but it happens a lot. Now for some reason I am having forced sex dreams of my dad who has never done anything to me. I also have dreams of guys I use to like in middle school and fight for my attraction but I always choose the same guy.Please help.


Depressed – is it my gender identity?

I've dealt with depression throughout my life, and think gender identity may be a probable cause. I have no memories of discomfort solely because of my genetic body and gender identity, but I've recently found myself facing severe depression while being faced with the concept. What makes me doubt GID, however is; a) a "transvestism fetish", & b) I got these strong feelings after being introduced to the reality of transsexualism, which makes me think it could be a learned thing. I don't feel like I am necessarily female inside, but I do have some wish and desire to have been born so. And despite the depression, consciously I would identify as mainly androgynous (mentally). I'm at my wits end, and in my last bout of depression my mind crept toward thoughts of suicide. Could this be an identity issue or could it just be the idea itself that causes discomfort? I'm considering professional help, but I fear this is just sporadic, temporary, and doubt the validity of the possible issue.



It feels like a hand around my throat – I think I love him

Hello. Am I Bi-Sexual or Bi-Curious? I'm 14 years old And Im Really Confused. All My Life I've Been Straight Untill My14th Birthday. I Never had Any Feelings For The Same Sex, But When I Turned 14, I Suddenly Felt An Overwhelming Attraction To My Best friend. He's Admitted To Me That He Is Bi, But I Can't, I Don't Know If I Am Or If I'm not. We have Been Best Friends For Over two years Now, And during All That TimeI Never Even Had A Spark With him, But Now It'sAll Changed. We've Kissed On A Few Occasions Just for Me To See If I Felt Anything. But When I did, I Was So... Happy. It's Like, When I'm With him, It's Like Fireworks Are Exploding Around Us. It Feels So Magical. But when he's Not There It's Feels Like There's A Hand Around My Throat, Grasping As Tight As Can Go, Restricting me to Breathe. I Think I Love Him. I Almost Slept With Him. But It's Not Just With Him, I Also Think Other Boys ( And Still Girls) Are Atrractive. I Just Want Your Help, Does th...


I want a straight life but enjoy gay porn

hello i have a question im straight or at least i want to be straight i would love to have a family and live a straight's life ... but my question is why do i like looking at gay porn and get hard by looking at guys have sex but when i masturbate after im done im like "i dont wanna have sex with a guy no more" but i have a friend that we always drink hang out and were most of the time together he is just like me he is STRAIGHT but he doesn't feel attracted to guys at all we have gotten drunk really drunk a couple of times and i have given him oral sex and played with him (no fornication) sometimes he says stop so i stop and he tells me it feels good but its just not right but then we start wrestling and leads to the same thing again. next morning we act like if nothing happened , it has happened more than once . wo you think he is gay or curious ?


Gay/Transsexual porn turns me on but I’m sure I’m straight.

Hey thanks for the great service! I have a question that's been bugging me. I've always identified as straight, throughout my life I've only had sexual and emotional attractions/relationships with girls, never once been attracted by men, but in the past year or so I've found myself turned on by the actual act of gay/transsexual sex. I'm not sure whether it's just the raw 'sexiness' of it or whether I'm trying to repress something, but I just hope this isn't the beginning of me turning bi or gay, as I love my hetrosexuality too much to give it up. I feel like I have no control over what turns me on but I just don't like it and wish I didn't feel it. The idea of romance or any kind of intimate contact with a man in real life would do nothing for me, but seeing it in porn and wondering about the sensations is a real turn on for me. Any ideas about this? Wish I could just understand why these feelings happen, it's making me really upset. Thank you!