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I dont’ know how to get a girlfriend

Hi I'm Bisexual and at this time in my life i hate the idea of going out with a guy. I want a girlfriend, but I don't know how to get one. I can't just go up to a girl and tell her i'm bi and ask if she is too. I need advice, I feel like I'll never be able to get a girlfriend. What do I do?


I’m scared to reveal my bisexuality

Hey I am 15 and I am in year 8 at high school I am scared to tell my friends who I am. I am actually bisexual and I really won't to tell them but I am afraid that they will look at me in different way and be disgusted at me and won't to be near me anymore and I have been hiding this for a while and I don't won't to keep it bottled up what should I do ???? =[


Not like it used to be – how can I fix my relationship?

I know i can't go back to what used to be with my boyfriend but things have changed and one week he's deeply in love with me and shows me everything and leaves me without any doubts, but there's other weeks where he barely shows anything. I like talking to him and I don't want to come off as desperate to talk to him or anything because I know it won't be a good idea but we've been fighting because i tell him how i feel but not exactly. I dont plan on telling him to prove me his love because I believe him, I just miss some of the old times where he used to care more and such. What should I do?



Why do I find men SO physically unappealing?

I am soon to be 45 and I am self-identified as a lesbian. The reason I have decided that I am a lesbian is because I don't like male biology---from the daily smegma accumulations, to the viscuous, invasive fluids, hard bodies, to the rather cold and analytical manner of relating to others which is governed by testosterone.. Don't get me wrong. I don't hate men. I just can't embrace our differences to like them romantically. My question is, and if you could give this answer more insight than you think I am asking for....; If you could tell me why heterosexual women like these (in my estimation) unappealing attributes.


Why am I not into having sex with my boyfriend or thinking about him in a sexual way?

I am 18 years old and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I do love him and find him good looking as well. I sometimes question myself whether I am attracted to him, but this might only be my paranoia. I started liking him back when we met mostly because of his personality rather than looks. I have liked several guys while I was younger but my present boyfriend is the first one I have had an intimate relationship with. Recently intercourse had been painful and I do not always feel like doing it. When he wants it I have a hard time getting aroused. I also noticed myself looking at girls often, but I always thought it is because I am comparing myself to them, or if they are pretty I would look at them. I have been feeling depressed lately because of several reasons and also have had some fights with my boyfriend. Why do I find myself not into having sex, or thinking about him in a sexual way, and is my behavior towards girls normal?


If I masturbate while thinking about men, does this mean I’m gay?

I think about men when I masturbate but I like women. I don't know if I'm gay or not because of this. I get called gay at school because of my voice. My voice has deepened a little bit since the 7th grade. I have had sex with a girl already and I'm totally straight. I love women. But I have emotional feelings for women and I don't know why I can't have physical feelings. So what I'm trying to ask is... if I masturbate while thinking about men and have physical thoughts, does that mean I'm gay?



I am a 12-year-old who does not want to be female, but does not yet feel any sexual attraction

Hi. I am a 12-year-old female that does not want to be female, but is not yet aware of any sexual attractions. I realize I'm a bit young, but this has been troubling me for 2 years now, ever since I got my first period. There is this boy at school that I might like, but I'm not really sure, and I don't really think I am in love with him for some reason. But, I have also found that when I think of having a relationship with someone, I see myself as a man with a woman. I have told my parents that I believe myself to be a transsexual. I am beginning to have suicidal thoughts, and I want to stop them before they get to a extremely serious stage. I wanted to know if there are any support groups in California, and if you can provide any help as to how I can survive like this. I really need help before I try to hurt myself, because right now, that seems the only answer, but I know it's not what I'm supposed to do. Please help me.


Do I love her?

I've always been with men only. But until I had a 3some three years ago, I started to be more curious and I wanted to experience being with a woman. But I've never found the right person. Well, I was working with this female up until last year May and when she quit we became the best of friends. Then it wasn't until this year that she told me she was bisexual and that she had a huge crush on me. But she respected the fact that we are friends and she would never cross the line. Well, one time she invited me to a party with a few friends and for some reason that night I just wanted to kiss her, but I didn't have the nerves to do it in public. Long story short I was in a relationship and I asked my boyfriend could I try it with a woman. I ended up sleeping with her and we've been doing just that for the past 3 months. I find myself wondering what it would be like to be in a relationship with her. I find myself wanting to see her more. Is it a phase? Am I really in love? How do I know?


I am in love with the boyfriend of my best friend…

I have a question about love. I am in love with the boyfriend of my best friend. She does not like him very much because she likes someone else but she uses him a second choice. He also likes me.. he has said this to me.. and now he has mixed feelings between me and her. I told him that I could not start a relationship with him because of my best friend. But what should I do now.. He likes me.. I like him and my best friend does nto really like him but stays with him anyway.. what can I do?