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I want to move to the US from Tunisia to be with my boyfriend – can I apply for a green card?

Hello! I recently got an F1 student visa to the USA , I'm from Tunisia. My boyfriend who lives in Philadelphia helped me. My visa is valid for 3 years. The thing is I met him and he came here and we're in love. So I decided I would love to live with him in the US. I thought about same sex marriage , will that change my visa status if marrying him in a state where same sex is legal ( 5 states in America allow legal same sex marriage) , will be able to stay there and be a resident and later apply for green card? What should I do to stay forever with him? I really love him and want to stay there too in a country that respects me for who I'am . And what if getting married in Canada ? Thanks a lot Alterhéros officials , I appreciate your help.


I can’t stop making lesbian jokes to my friend who hurt me

I've been knowing this girl for like.a year who's now my best friend.. I could tell when I first meet her that she was confused about something.. we got close to each other kissed all the time, touchyfeely or whatever.. later had a sexual experience that she stopped that same day.. I told her.. that no matter what I would always be a friend and now where best friends... she became more open to me about everything.. telling me I'm the first and only guy she's ever been with. but she's scared to be with me because she done wanna running our friendship... but that's not the point... come to find out her last two years of high school she had a girl friend.. yep she was a lesbian.. I was so confused as to the way we were together.. now it's none of that we just hang out with each other and I can't help but make lesbian jokes to her about it.. cuz I'm hurt.. I tell her it hurts.. because I was patient and in the end all I got was a best friend.. but I still feel the same way.. help me.


He reacted well when I came out, but I still don’t know if he likes me romantically

Hi, and first of all I must say that you helped me the first time! ;) But now I have another prob! Long story short, I told my male friend that I like him and that I feel something more,I was ready for the worst and I even told him "If you don't want to see me ever again I'll leave you forever,I understand how u feel" (I cried bc I was afraid), and he responded on this "I would be a complete douchebag if I'd do something like that! I am never going to leave you alone"...Honestly I was shocked, so I repeated "I'll give you some time to..." "No, no, I don't have to think about it, I said it"...After, he told me that its courageous from me to tell him how I feel and that I should tell more people coz its bad to keep all in me. Idk, I'm now more confused! I don't know what are his feelings,"never going to leave me?!" I think that he is afraid of relationships, and maybe he needs some time, but still... Please help me! And now when he knows the truth,I think I love him and need him even more.



I have a testosterone problem, how concerned should I be ?

I have always had gender dysphoria to a large extent and have many anomalies from VATER Association. I had my testosterone levels checked in June of 2009 (bioavailable...the better test) and on a scale of 47 - 244 I was at 77. I had it checked in June of this year and it had dropped down to 46. I was started on testosterone replacement therapy 8 weeks ago and I was tested yesterday and now I am down to 28. How concerned should I be? Does this indicate a problem with my pituitary gland?


Gay/Transsexual porn turns me on but I’m sure I’m straight.

Hey thanks for the great service! I have a question that's been bugging me. I've always identified as straight, throughout my life I've only had sexual and emotional attractions/relationships with girls, never once been attracted by men, but in the past year or so I've found myself turned on by the actual act of gay/transsexual sex. I'm not sure whether it's just the raw 'sexiness' of it or whether I'm trying to repress something, but I just hope this isn't the beginning of me turning bi or gay, as I love my hetrosexuality too much to give it up. I feel like I have no control over what turns me on but I just don't like it and wish I didn't feel it. The idea of romance or any kind of intimate contact with a man in real life would do nothing for me, but seeing it in porn and wondering about the sensations is a real turn on for me. Any ideas about this? Wish I could just understand why these feelings happen, it's making me really upset. Thank you!




Does she want ME to kiss her? Or that other girl?

hi my name is maribel, i have this Bi friend that i met last year. we have been talking, texting, and been spending so much time together. We really gotten to know each other pritty good, and i don't really know if she likes me? Because she talks about this other girl a lot (is it to get me jealous?), and i act like if i don't mined but really,I'm burning in the inside! Why doesn't she just hang out with the girl that she likes? why me? She sometimes even blows off the other girl to hang out with me? i have told her that i liked her but i couldn't talk about it no more. so we left it like that. My birthday just passed&how my birthday is on valentines day, she spent it with me, and i was going to kiss her for the first time but i really don't know if i should even think of that knowing she likes someone else? p.s. she Has been talking about A kiss,but she talks about that other girl& how she better get a kiss from someone before summer?(doesn't have to be that girl) What does all this mean? HELP


Our parents caught us kissing and now I have to go to Catholic school!

I've always been a bit of a tomboy, but my parents would never let me do the things I wanted- the only sports they would let me play were the 'girly' ones- figure skating, ringette, soccer, cheerleading, ballet, gymnastics, etc. I guess maybe they figured something out about me at five that it took me years to realize: I'm gay. (My hands are shaking just typing that) I have a girlfriend, the most beautiful, awesome, smart, funny girl in the world. I love her. Nobody knew about us until yesterday, when her mother caught us kissing when we thought nobody was home. We're no longer allowed to see each other and my parents are sending me to Catholic school, because apparently 'this would never have happened in a Catholic school'. They're really, really, really angry. I'm- so many things. I'm terrified, I'm scared, I'm angry, I'm confused, and I'm really depressed. I just want to die, or run away from home and leave this hick town forever. I don't know what to do. Please help.