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I hate love and dating – they’re boring!

Dear Expert, I have a question. My question is it weird to hate dating and falling in love or being in love? I hate dating and love. I think it's waste of time being in love. I think it is very boring to fall in love. I'm not bisexual. I didn't tell anyone how I feel. But it is weird to hate love or dating?


What if someone wanted to do away with gender ?

While you have answered a question about castration, you did so in a leading manner that implies desire towards femininity. What if an individual did not want to become female, but wished to do away with gender and sexual identity altogether? Would the barriers of understanding by "successful" people make this impossible? I'd rather not have to jury rig a pair of hedge clippers, but I don't think I have any choice. I am a Montrealler, so if you can provide an individual reference, that would help greatly.


I felt guilty about masturbating. Now I keep thinking about penis!

I am Johnn and i just became 19 To start first i hope that you help as much as i can as i cannot afford counseling at the moment.As far as i can remember i liked girls since 8years old or maybe 7 something like that, i had gotten an erection with a woman in an advertising back then, however i felt guilty about it and i suppressed my horniness ,until the age of 12 which a friend told me about masturbation, i started masturbating thinking of women naturally,but then 3 things happened. At age 13 i tried women clothes and liked them,a little before 14 i tried anal masturbation and liked it,at 14 i wanted to do me anal a friend of mine which did not happen,all this things happened so fast and even now i can say i am not attracted physically to men but i like thinking of penis a lot!I've only fell in love with women in the past,but now that i think of penis,i get so excited that i cannot think of them anymore,what happened to me?i am also a person who does not feel comfortable around women? Help!



Confused about my feelings for both women and men

I'm very confused and could use help. I'm a college student and for most of my life I considered myself straight. None of my relationships with guys worked, they all felt forced. Touching them (even just holding hands) was a chore and kissing them made me Ill. I still wanted to date them, of course, but I couldn't seem to be attracted or close to them. Eventually, I chalked it up to me just being unable to commit. Then I got to college and started looking around. I still want to date guys, but I find myself looking at girls with much more interest. I could see myself with them physically, which I never had with guys, but despite that I still don't know if I'm bi, straight, lesbian, or bi-curious and, since I live in a fairly homophobic area of the country, I have no idea how to figure it out and no one to talk to. Any ideas would be much appreciated.


Is having a sex-change acceptable if I am Muslim?

hi I'm a muslim boy and I have always felt like I wasn't the right gender. I always felt like I'm a girl. I even used to dress in my mum's clothing when my parents went out or when we played as children I always used to want to dress up as a girl. I also always wanted to know what sex feels like as a girl. I often masturbate imagining this. I even went as far as to insert objects in my backside and masturbate this way. my question is do you think I am transsexual? if so can you give me some info on forums for people in similar states. also do you think as a muslim it is acceptable to have a sex change?


I am confused about my sexuality and my possible gender…

I'm confused about my sexuality and possibly gender. Ive been with women and enjoyed it but never with a man. I am very attracted to women, anytime a good looking girl walks by I always look and often get a sensation. Not the same with men. BUT, when I fantasize(masturbate) I typically envision myself as a woman having sex with a man, this turns me on very much. When I fatasize about being a man with a man, it dosnt work well, when I fantasize about being a man with a woman I get turned on but not nearly as much as I do when I am a female with a man. I do enjoy cross dressing occasionaly in private. I have also fantasizad about cross dressing and pleasing a man but this is not as common. Fantasizing about being a transexual (but with my penis, sorry I dont know the correct term) has also turned me on sexually. But in reality I would not want alter my body in any way,(such as growing breasts) Do you think I have gay/bi/trans tendancies? any answers/thoughts/comments would help




I hate how religions portray homosexuality

I hate when people start with religion and sexuality. They tell us how this stupid book says we can't be gay or whatever. They say its unnatural and try to 'FIX' us or abuse us. What if we don't want to be fixed, I certainly don't want to change my sexuality and third gender which I'm sure they are against too. Instead of trying to find a cure so people can be happy too, why don't they just leave us alone? My dad always brings up this stupid thing about how gays are wrong and how having same-sex intercourse is like doing it with animals. I told him that it's completely different because that's all about sex rather than sexuality and the animal can not make a mature choice as to if it wants to because it cannot speak so it's like RAPE, which is wrong. I'm really getting annoyed with the world's views on gays/transgenders and everything else. It's sickening. I want to help stop this madness but I don't know how. What can I do?? I feel so hopeless that the world is doomed to be forever like this.


I think I am androgynous; does this mean I have gender identity issues?

I'm having a few gender identity issues. I'm quite happy in my female body, but even when I was a kid, I would spend every spare second getting covered in mud, stuck in trees, and even once got my bridesmaid dress covered in grass stains. I abhorred the color pink simply because I was expected to wear it (and still do!) . Now, at sixteen, I'm less tomboy and more stubbornly unfeminine. I never wear skirts, & you're far more likely to find me rooting around topman (yay) than topshop (ew). Although I'm in a steady relationship with a wonderful guy who I love deeply, my ex-best friend (female) is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. I'm quite at peace with my sexuality (somewhere between pansexual and hetero-flexible), but as for gender identity, I just don't know. I want to hang around in guys clothes and not be expected to wear makeup. The closest thing I've found so far to what I feel like is androgynous, but people I've talked to feel hugely uncomfortable in their bodies.