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He reacted well when I came out, but I still don’t know if he likes me romantically

Hi, and first of all I must say that you helped me the first time! ;) But now I have another prob! Long story short, I told my male friend that I like him and that I feel something more,I was ready for the worst and I even told him "If you don't want to see me ever again I'll leave you forever,I understand how u feel" (I cried bc I was afraid), and he responded on this "I would be a complete douchebag if I'd do something like that! I am never going to leave you alone"...Honestly I was shocked, so I repeated "I'll give you some time to..." "No, no, I don't have to think about it, I said it"...After, he told me that its courageous from me to tell him how I feel and that I should tell more people coz its bad to keep all in me. Idk, I'm now more confused! I don't know what are his feelings,"never going to leave me?!" I think that he is afraid of relationships, and maybe he needs some time, but still... Please help me! And now when he knows the truth,I think I love him and need him even more.


I think I have sadism, gender, sexuality issues

I think I may be having gender, sexuality and sadism issues. Where gender is concerned, I'm biologically female. However, I completely loathe the idea of anyone perceiving me as such, but I know there's no way for me to be male and I don't want to be one. I'd prefer to be neither or both. And I'm not attracted to men or women- but I am really attracted to the idea of them being hurt, sexually or otherwise. Whenever I hear that some young, promising person has committed suicide, or a very loved child has been murdered, it really excites me, until I realize how disgusting that is and I don't know what to do. Part of the reason why I don't want to be perceived as female is because they are perceived as vulnerable- I like that on other people but not me. I don't think any of this is right. I have no romantic options like this, I would like them, but I just don't like other people. Am I sadistic + asexual or just messed up in the head? How can I accept it or change?


Threeway without having sex with the other guy

Hi, I am 18 years old and have suddenly begun to really want a 3 way relationship. Am I crazy? I'm a guy and I want a guy and a girl. I want us all to love eachother and makeout and kiss...etc, but I wouldnt have sex with the guy. We could both be with the girl though. Sort of like in the movie "The Dreamers".



My strong feelings continue – should I tell her so?

I am 16 years old, I am a bisexual girl, and I am in love with a close friend of mine, who is also bisexual. I have felt this way about her one year and a half. When I met her I didn't know or accept that I was bi, and I didn't know that she was bi either. We had an innocent friendship at the beginning. Last summer I realized that I wanted to kiss her more than anything. One night on a sleepover she unexpectedly asked me to kiss her, and it was the most beautiful and erotic moment of my life, up until that moment. I guess I had my first real and meaningful kiss with her. She started dating this guy and we would constantly fight for her. I still don't know if she knows that I love her or if she thinks that I'm just having fun. We flirt a lot, we've kissed many times, and it definitely had a sexual connotation to it, as opposed to just two friends joking around. Since it's been almost two years and my feelings are as strong as ever, I'm confused as to whether I should tell her or not.


I’m having violent sexual dreams

I am twenty three and am a virgin but almost every night I have dreams of sex. I was diagnosed with Narcolepsy at the age of 13 and to get rid of the nightmares I started to watch porn. Now I can ignore the dreams of sex and redirect them. But a lot of times I have dreams of two people who were close friends one is of a guy who was like a brother to me tries to rape me and a friend she tries to force me to have sex also (sometimes with the girl it does happen but shes always fisting me). I don't like these dreams and try to ignore them but it happens a lot. Now for some reason I am having forced sex dreams of my dad who has never done anything to me. I also have dreams of guys I use to like in middle school and fight for my attraction but I always choose the same guy.Please help.


Depressed – is it my gender identity?

I've dealt with depression throughout my life, and think gender identity may be a probable cause. I have no memories of discomfort solely because of my genetic body and gender identity, but I've recently found myself facing severe depression while being faced with the concept. What makes me doubt GID, however is; a) a "transvestism fetish", & b) I got these strong feelings after being introduced to the reality of transsexualism, which makes me think it could be a learned thing. I don't feel like I am necessarily female inside, but I do have some wish and desire to have been born so. And despite the depression, consciously I would identify as mainly androgynous (mentally). I'm at my wits end, and in my last bout of depression my mind crept toward thoughts of suicide. Could this be an identity issue or could it just be the idea itself that causes discomfort? I'm considering professional help, but I fear this is just sporadic, temporary, and doubt the validity of the possible issue.



Should I ask her if she’s bisexual?

I'm a girl and I think this girl I've only known for three months likes me. I have classes with her and I would often see her staring at me and if I look back at her, she would break the contact and I think she only does this because she's shy. Sometimes, she would walk around me dreamily and I don't know if she really does this with her other friends. Then, just recently, I was sitting on my desk and she walked up to me and she suddenly held my hand and I thought she was finally gonna tell me that she likes me but she didn't. Apparently, she was showing a friend her technique on arm wrestling. What confused me more was why was it me that she had do that arm wrestling technique with when she had friends sitting near her desk. I admit liking the touch of her hand. I don't know if she's bisexual too, like me, because her crushes are mainly guys (celebrity guys). What should I do? Should I ask her?


How can I tell my mom I’m transsexual while I’m still young?

I want to come out to my mother as a transsexual. She knows I'm bisexual, but she's still doing the "it's just a phase" thing. Other than that, she seemed open enough about it, and overall accepts my sexuality. I want to tell her about this now, while I'm still young. I'm not sure if she'll be supportive. How can I tell her in a way that'll be easy for her, and maybe encourage her to support my decision?


My friend still leads me on after she said she doesn’t like me that way

I wrote in earlier about how I like my friend that is a girl, and how she was giving mixed signals. You advised me to talk to her and I did. It sucked. Every reason I gave to her about leading me on, she shut down. I asked why would she say that she gets excited when I text her, and she said she does with all her friends. I asked why she would be afraid of losing me, and she said because I’m a friend. Every answer was “you’re my friend”. That was 2 months ago. Now we’re good but she’s confusing me again. We were discussing hugging which we’ve never done, and I asked how she would like me to. She said as tight and as close as I want, as long as it lasts forever. When I asked what she meant, she said we could stand there all day holding each other and nothing else would matter. Then one day we said what we liked about each other, and she told me I had a nice body but "not in a weird way", pretty eyes that she gets lost looking into, and I’m so sweet. What does she want from me?